Do you want to know what is the hardest type of human being to be on the face of this earth, hands down?
I should know – I am one.
But seriously, just stop what you are doing for a moment and think about it.
Have you ever wondered what on earth God was doing when he made women and placed them in a physical world as messed up, cruel, and dog-eat-dog as this crazy planet?
To me, the entire concept is something as mind-boggling insane as this:
“So you created an incredibly valuable treasure and placed it in the middle of a mud wrestling match for 500 pound Sumo maniacs who can only think with their lower half?!”
*Followed by lots of head banging into wall.*
The Creation of Man
On the other hand, when God formed men to exist in the physical realm, he seemed to actually have his thoughts together in a relatively rational way.
He made the male species pretty straight forward, and tough enough for a place just as dangerous as this earth (or messy mud pits with 500 pound Sumo wrestlers).
Men are generally:
- Built sturdy (more muscle than softness)
- Physically strong
- Loaded with aggressive tendencies at one level or another (i.e. they can defend themselves relatively easily and can step on toes without feeling bad)
- Don’t have massive levels of emotions that take over and try to rule their lives
- Rarely cry
- Don’t suffer from P.M.S., or other messy issues
- Hardly ever feel bad when they do things outside of marriage that they shouldn’t (unless they get caught)
- Are pretty much content as long as they can eat, sleep, work, have shelter and engage in sex
- No one ever expects them to be completely vulnerable in the entire process of bringing children into the world – from the beginning until the end
Yep, from an earthly perspective, men have it pretty simple.
They are made from the earth, and the earth seems to hesitate to mess with them at the most basic biological levels.
Everything is complicated on this side of the hormone factor.
It is as if we were created for some other planet (where Sumo wrestlers definitely do not exist).
I have been through enough in my relatively still young life to have faced almost every single dangerous and deadly aspect that can tear a woman apart, heart and soul, and believe me, I can testify that being a woman is pretty darn friggin’ hard work.
So you better be nice to me.
(Just kidding…sort of.)
The Creation of Woman
Think for a moment about what many women go through during the course of their lives, based exclusively on how they were biologically created by God: (i.e., physically weaker, softer, generally smaller and more emotional than men.)
- We are born into a world that sees us as gentle and delicate, and from our earliest years most of us are taught that our appearance matters in a fundamental way, shaping and defining who we are in the eyes of others. (Just look at little girls playing dress up, experimenting with makeup, or dreaming of being Cinderella.)
- Unfortunately, as a result of this inherent, God-given physical design, many more young girls than boys find themselves shattered with the realities of sexual abuse at some point during their early years, and well into their later teens.
- Growing up, the same focus on our appearance that we were taught as young children is rapidly advanced when we reach a certain age, and maturing teenage girls are often quickly inundated with a culture that expects them to conform to the ideals of beauty and seduction, or be considered inadequate and lacking.
- During these same formative years, the young men around us seem, for the most part, to only be interested in the blossoming women who can suitably please the eye, and young catty girls who already meet this standard compete against one another ruthlessly.
- In the secret culture of teenage girls, they are often found degrading their feminine peers as not “beautiful” enough, and those who find themselves enduring the brunt of such attacks end up burdened, through cruelty, with a physical complex that will haunt them the rest of their lives. (Just watch the film “Mean Girls” for a perfect glimpse into this harsh reality.)
- Young men encourage one another with a lustful mentality, often competing for sexual scorecards and damaging the fragile emotional world of young women who only want to trust their empty promises and see nothing but the best in all of their intentions.
- Many young girls give themselves away to the wrong men, or engage in other dangerous behavior, which barely leaves a few dust bunnies on the minds of the young men involved, but which often leads to deep inner issues for the women and a trail of destructive relationships.
- Some women find themselves, either during their younger years or as mature adults, victimized and physically abused by men, who see women as smaller and physically weaker, and therefore feel more powerful against them.
- A portion of women (increasing at an alarming rate) enter into a culture that tells them they should want to be abused by many shades of grey, and choose to head off on a “wreck ones own inner world” train, destined for collision with severe psychological issues later in life.
- For those women who are drawn into the belief that they must be objectified to be worthy, they will spend their lives living a shallow existence where they are regularly taken advantage of by unscrupulous men, often only leading them deep into depression and the overly medicated, alcohol infested realities of a pseudo Marilyn Monroe.
- Some end up in happy marriages, while others give themselves trustingly to men who play the role of the villain without scruple, running off in extra-marital affairs, divorce, or leaving the women to raise children on their own.
- For those women who enter the workforce, they often find themselves taking a lower salary than their male counterpart, passed over for positions that are given in preference to men, or even viewed as less capable and savvy than the male gender.
- In order to survive in a male dominated world, many women end up turning against the concept of being a female, adopt a completely “bitchy attitude,” and start to rule the world P.M.S. style – which is just way more scary than, oh, say…Hitler.
- Speaking of P.M.S., women are also forced to spend days out of every month in a pain and discomfort that men will just never understand, while their emotions race like an out-of-control roller coaster, causing them to sometimes appear as though a mental institution would be a better shelter for their troubled souls.
- Lets not even mention the pains of 9 months of pregnancy, followed by childbirth, and a lifetime of worry over the “flesh of one’s flesh.”
- Then, in old age, many are criticized for being “nothing more than a mother” and “giving up their dreams” to raise a family, as if they had contributed nothing of any significance to the earth (you know, whole new human lives are just not that important these days…*sigh*).
- And to make matters worse, in some cultures women are not even provided with the most basic rights, and are treated like property that can be bartered, traded, and disposed of at whim. If a woman is attacked by a man in those cultures, she is often held to blame, and sometimes even put to death.
Sound like a lot?
It is, but here is what is scary:
That is just the beginning.
I could go on…and on…and on.
But you probably do not want me to.
Because those things that I have talked about, however briefly, are just not pleasant.
They are difficult.
They are painful, ugly, and messy.
Yet they are what many women go through, simply for being created the way that they are.
What Was God Thinking?
So maybe now you may understand a little more of why I asked at the beginning of this post:
“What on earth was God doing when he made women and placed them in a physical world as messed up, cruel, and dog-eat-dog as this crazy planet?”
From a human standpoint, it just does not make a lot of sense.
Why create a creature that is going to come into the world and be:
- Put down more than men
- Devalued on a more frequent basis
- Judged on her appearance or “seductive” qualities rather than on her own personal worth
- Have a harder time defending herself physically
- Told she is not good enough due to her gender
- Held back from more worldly, “successful” accomplishments
- Have a higher risk of being abused on every level
- Blamed and persecuted in some cultures if she is attacked by a man
- Suffer physical pain on a monthly basis
- Endure countless other sufferings related to her sex
and still have to find some measure of sanity through it all?
Call me crazy, but it almost seems like God had some kind of a cruel plan when he made women.
Or did he?
God’s Original Plan
We all know the classic story of the fall of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden.
It was a terrible event, and God was not long to pronounce negative results for both offenders.
For Adam, life was to become a sweaty, miserable, burdensome toil.
His masculine strength would no longer be his blessing, but his curse, and he would be forced to utilize that same robust strength in hard labor for all the days of his remaining life.
Eve was to also lose the blessings of her feminine qualities, for they were to turn against her in a very real and dramatic way.
God told Eve:
“I will increase your trouble in pregnancy and your pain in giving birth. In spite of this, you will still have desire for your husband, yet you will be subject to him.” – Genesis, 3:16
Talk about a tough position to be placed in.
Adam might have to labor under intense sweat and toil, but Eve was forced to be beneath him.
The ramifications of this are massive.
When one is placed in a more superior position, it is the one in the less superior that is likely to suffer the most.
And sure enough, this suffering can be seen to play out in almost every aspect of a woman’s life through the examples that I gave above.
There, as I tried to demonstrate, women are often left vulnerable while men walk away generally unscathed.
This lack of equality in how life experiences affect the different genders seems to show one as appearing to be “superior” in a certain level of invincibility to suffering, and the other “inferior.”
Yet the pronouncement of subjugation to Adam, as a result of the fall, strongly suggests that such a state did not exist in the Garden of Eden prior to the fateful mistake that both of God’s chosen ones had made.
In other words, such a state of subjugation and increased suffering for women was not apart of God’s original plan.
Women were not meant to be looked upon as subject to men.
If that is the case, then the question only remains, what was God’s original plan?
What is the true nature of women, and what were women originally intended to be?
- So much of the mission to reclaim the sacred hinges on a thorough understanding of the true nature and dignity of women, and so I will continue this exploration in my next post.
Hang in there, for this all important topic regarding the value of women is to be continued….
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